Success is a tricky thing. It means different things to different people. For some, it might be about making a lot of money. For others, it could be about being rich in friends or family. And for some, it’s about achieving a certain level in their profession or business.
I used to believe that success and happiness were one and the same, that an increase in my income would equate to more joy and contentment in my life. I was wrong.
Here are 3 lies of success:
- Success feels good. In order to succeed we have to grow.
To become more successful we have to take on new challenges and learn new disciplines that will push us out of our comfort zone into zones that can feel uncomfortable and unpleasant at times. This takes time effort, patience, and sacrifice.
- Once you become successful you will be happy. Success does not equate happiness. Happiness is contentment. Liking what you have. Being ok with things as they are.
Success is like dieting: You can always lose another ten pounds or make more money or get a promotion or start another company or write another book, but no matter how much you achieve there is always something else waiting for you around the corner—something bigger.
3. Success will solve all of your problems. Money and success create the illusion of solving problems. It does not prevent you from experiencing pain.
The problem is that success is an outcome. It’s something you get when you achieve certain goals and attain certain standards. Happiness, on the other hand, is a state of being — it’s the way you feel inside, regardless of what’s going on around you. The two are entirely different things.
You should solve your problems before you aim for success.